Seven SUPER secrets for intimacy : 1. GIVE more to your partner than you take from them;

2. MANAGE your anger very well in your relationship-too much anger poisons your oneness; 

3. TREASURE the whole body as something awesome and not just the areas that you think would be sexual;

4. HAVE (and resolve) one conflict a week-building a better sexual relationship requires honesty and conflict resolution skills; 

5. CREATE a win-win connection during conflict asking, “how can both of us win and avoid a win/lose result” from our fights;

6. MAKE regular time for closeness and intimacy; 

7. BE quick to forgive; keep a very short list of former offenses.